10 Things Happy Couples Do Differently

All relationships hit a bit of a slump every now and again, some more than others. Eventually days repeat themselves, and you find yourself losing your better half. So here’s the top 10 things that will help every relationship prevent this from happening!

1. Embrace Trust and Avoid Jealousy – I know, it’s a lot easier said than done. But think about it this way. It is unavoidable that your partner will have friends, colleagues, classmates, and people they see in their day-to-day lives that are of the opposite sex. Some of these people may be really great and really good looking. But here’s where the trust comes in. Your partner chose you, if they wanted any of those people they see everyday, they would very easily leave you. Jealousy is only a sign of insecurity, which is an extremely unattractive quality. Jealousy will not get you anywhere in a relationship – it only leads to trust issues, which could lead to a break up. Jealousy and lack of trust will drive your partner away. Learn to trust your partner, and show them that you trust them. Have a little more faith in yourself – you are the one they have chosen and you are the one they want.

2. Take an Interest in Each Others Day – Its too easy to come home and rant on about how much you hate your boss or how idiotic some people in your office are. Instead, come home and start by asking your partner how their day was. A gentle kiss and a loving hug will let them know you really care. Don’t forget to pay attention to the details, ask questions to show that you are actually interested.

3. Learn to Compromise – No, unfortunately you can’t always have it your way. If he watched The Notebook with you last night, why not watch the game with him tonight? Show them how much you enjoy spending time with them, even if its not your favourite activity – any time together is quality time.

4. Find Common Hobbies and Likes – It’s always easier in the early stages of a relationship, but once that thrill of a new relationship wares off, you need to be able t do things together that you both enjoy. Shared interests are a great back bone to a long lasting relationship

5. Make Time for Each Other – All relationships need time together. I’m not talking about watching a movie together or sitting on your computer together, you need time to talk to each other. Set a side a couple of days a week to have a quite dinner alone and just reflect and chat.

6. Give Each Other Space – When you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you’re trapped or being held down. Give each other space and freedom. Let him go camping with the guys or let her go shopping with her girlfriends. You won’t die if you aren’t with them all the time. Everyone needs that “me” time.

7. Do New Things Together – Do not fall into the same routine of doing the same old things over and over. One of you will end up getting bored and looking elsewhere for something more interesting. Experiencing new things together brings you closer together and keeps the excitement going in the relationship.

8. Flirt A Little – No, don’t get too excited – I don’t mean flirt with other people, trust me, Happy Couples do not do that! Flirt with each other, do not let the spark die. Use a few cheesy pick up lines, tell them how hot they look in the mornings before work, and maybe initiate some sexting. Its a great way to keep your partner interested and happy.

9. Express Your Love – Exchange gifts, take them to surprise dinners, write them love notes, whatever you do, just show them that your love them. Don’t forget to simply say “I Love You” whenever you get the chance – short, sweet, and ever so important!

10. Don’t Hold Grudges – Everyone makes mistakes, and if they hurt you, they regret it more than you think. They don’t need you to constantly remind them of something they’ve done wrong – are you trying to drive them away? Learn to talk out your problems with each other and move on from arguments once they are over.

These top 10 things are key to a happy relationship! You’re welcome.

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The Weight Watchers Diet – The Healthy Way to Lose Weight!

Have you been struggling to lose weight? Aimlessly trying to get your summer body back? GezzyGirl has a new diet that will fit any lifestyle – everyone has to give this one a try! The Weight Watchers Diet helps you lose 1kg (2lbs) a week, while you eat whatever you want! Sounds too good to be true? Here’s how it works!

The Weight Watchers Diet is based on the theory that counting calories is not the only aspect of dieting, but rather making healthy choices that fill you up, and therefore eating less.The Weight Watchers Diet Points Plus assigns every food a points value based on protein, carbs, fat, fibre, calories, and how hard the body has to work to burn it off. In order to lose weight you need to keep your point count down. Choices that fill you up and nutritionally dense foods “cost” fewer points than empty calories. For example, if you’re contemplating between a 200cal smoothie and a 200cal iced coffee, you would choose the smoothie even though they have the same calorie count! Bare in mind that processed foods will carry high points, while fresh fruits and vegetables carry zero points! You can eat as much as you want of these because they are high in fibre and more filling than something highly processed, like a chocolate!

There is no fixed membership period for this diet. Because it’s a healthy way to lose the unwanted fat, you can stay on it for as long as you wish. The great thing about this diet is that you can eat whatever you want, as long as you stick to your daily Points Plus Target. You can find your target by going onto the Weight Watchers website. Here, you will also find the point values of over 40 000 foods! Weight Watchers also pushes specially designated power foods, or the best choice among similar foods. For example, if you’re stuck between 2 soups, you can quickly check which one has the healthier content.

So why should you follow this diet? Well first and foremost, the Weight Watchers Diet helps you lose weight. Studies suggest that Weight Watchers is affective when followed correctly, with 86% of followers being happily satisfied with the results. Following this diet proves to improve cardiac health through weight loss. Although eating this way does not directly better diabetes, it helps you lose weight and intern helps diabetes patients.

Weight Watchers recommends that you take a daily multivitamin to ensure that you’re getting enough calcium, zinc, magnesium, iron, vitamin B-12, and other important nutrients. This diet is easy to follow as you won’t go hungry throughout the day – the points per day are high enough to allow 3 meals and at least 2 snacks! Treating yourself is recommended!!! Just stick to your allocated points and you’ll be on your way to your dream body!

 

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My Love, My Life…

I thought he was perfect. He had everything I could ever want in a man. He was extremely sweet, extremely caring, and so very loving. He catered to my every need and he took care of me. He was always trying his best to keep me happy, and when I was upset, he would hold my face in his hands ever so gently, kiss me on my forehead and remind me that he loves me, “Therefore everything will be ok” he would say. He was 7 years older than me, and I loved his maturity. I vaguely remember the long drives we would take together, I loved them. We would blast the music in his car and scream to each other the whole conversation and the whole way home. He would take me for drives when I was angry, just to calm me down. He kindly understood that our time together would always be limited as he stayed far from my home (1 hours drive away) and my parents didn’t know about him. We always had fun together, we were always with friends, always at parties, seeing each other at our best (before the party), and at our worst (after the party). It was exactly my idea of a perfect relationship.

We had our ups and we had our downs, as couples do. And with time, we had more and more downs, each down getting lower and lower. We wouldn’t speak to each other for weeks on end, not even a simple “Hey, how are you”, and not once did I think to myself “I miss him”. It became clear to me that this was not the man that I would be spending the rest of my life with – how could I – I didn’t even miss him after not hearing from him for a whole two weeks. Surely if you do not miss them, they can’t mean much to you? You wouldn’t feel the need to call them “My Life”.

What does it mean when you tell someone that they’re Your Life? It means you Love them. You’re In Love with them. You Need them. You live for them – for their Happiness – and you cannot live without them. They mean everything to you – they are Your Everything. They’ve earned a special place in your heart that cannot and will not be replaced, no matter what. There is no difference between death and being without them. You Love them.

Yes, calling someone “My Life” is serious. You wouldn’t dare call just anyone “My Life”. You can call them “My Love”, “My Baby”, you can tell them you Love them, but nothing means more than calling them “My Life”. So although I thought I loved him, I knew that he was not “My Life”. As much as I loved him and as happy as I was, I never once thought of him as “My Life”. He felt the same way – he never called me his life either. Even he knew that this special title is meant to be unique, and he too was saving it for someone who well deserved it, for someone who he truly Loved and lived for.

As time went by, things between us were only getting worse, and before I realised it, it was over. I didn’t miss him after the break up either, for a simple reason – he was not “My Life”. I tried many relationships after him, all which seemed to never measure up to what I had experienced before. None of them lasted as long either, 7 months being the longest. It wasn’t until March last year that I finally found someone worth keeping.

We met at a varsity party and spent that night together. It was amazing. Between all the alcohol and the random make out sessions with him on the dance floor, in his friend’s car, and behind a lecture hall, I fall In Love. I knew that night that I Loved him and Needed him. Apparently he knew too – he said to me “If I remember all this tomorrow, you owe me a date next friday”. He wanted me in his life as much as I wanted him in mine.

Well you can guess that it wasn’t long after that, that we started dating, He was mine and I was his. And with every day together, I could see more and more of what an amazing person he is. He Loves me, he cares for me. He’s the sweetest man I’ve ever met, he’s romantic, he’s cute, funny, corny. I Need him and he makes me Happy. He has the most Amazing eyes, that change colour with his mood, with the weather, and with what he wears. His lips, so perfect, slighty pink and always so juicy, so kissable. And when he smiles, you can tell he really is happy, because he doesn’t just smile with his lips, but with his eyes, his cheeks, his nose – and it makes me smile. His skin is so soft, so specifically coloured that it’s impossible to explain with words (much like his eyes). His body, so strong, so smooth, so sexy. His touch is so gentle, so careful, always so thought out, and I can feel his Love for me with every touch. His ambition, his competitiveness, his temper, his childishness and his seriousness, are yet but a small part of what makes him perfect to me. He is so much more than everything I want in a guy, he’s everything I Need in a man. He treats me well, he listens to me, he helps me, supports me, encourages me, motivates me. He understands me.

He is My Life. I Love him, I’m In Love with him, I Need him. I live for him – for his Happiness – and I cannot live without him. My Happiness depends on him. He means Everything to me, he is My Everything. He has earned a special place in my heart that cannot and will not be replaced, no matter what. For me, there is no difference between death and being without him. I Love him.

Why Men Love Porn

“97% of men watch porn, the other 3% is lying”

Ever so often, men in healthy relationships enjoy watching porn, and even more often the women in their lives have a problem with it – after all, how healthy can your relationship really be if he enjoys watching other people having sex, right?

So why do men enjoy watching or reading about other people having sex?

Reason #1: He’s bord – Porn is their idea of entertainment. No, they won’t choose a normal activity like shop, eat, nap, exercise, etc, they rather watch porn.

Reason #2: He’s lazy – Porn is like fast food, he doesn’t even need to get off the couch. Why waste time and effort on sexting his girlfriend, calling her over or asking for a sexy picture? Porn is readily available and easily accessible. And of course sex is messy and all the thrusting can be tiring, he’d rather forfeit the real deal…

Reason #3: Guys like the crazy, wild stuff, that is, it’s a major turn on – Let’s be honest, not all of us have the flat tummy, toned thighs, perfect curves, big ass, D-cup boobs he sees in every porn video out there (and even if you do, it’s not enough). A girl like that could turn a perfectly straight lady on. Porn fulfills his favourite fantasies – the wild, weird positioned sex he’s dying to have, those girls have tried it all, and watching them do it allows him to imagine him doing it. Yes, that’s right, in case he’s being lying to you – he has imagined having sex with millions of girls by now. And no, he doesn’t see our problem with it.

Of course these are not the only reasons, all guys have different motivations.

So is him watching porn a problem? Well he certainly doesn’t think so. Watching porn is not a reflection of your love/sex life. It doesn’t mean that he’s bored with you or unhappy with you, and he is most definitely not replacing you with porn. Maybe take it as a bit of a hint though – spice things up in the bedroom, and maybe, just maybe, he’ll enjoy watching you more than porn.

Keep in mind that guys are naturally aroused by the sight or simple thought of sex. No, it does not mean that he’s a sex addict, it simply means that he enjoys it (and trust me, all men do). If it doesn’t interfere with their daily lives or your relationship, then let him be. After all, how much can it really affect you that your man is jerking off to another woman’s body, imagining that it was him f***ing her.