10 Things Happy Couples Do Differently

All relationships hit a bit of a slump every now and again, some more than others. Eventually days repeat themselves, and you find yourself losing your better half. So here’s the top 10 things that will help every relationship prevent this from happening!

1. Embrace Trust and Avoid Jealousy – I know, it’s a lot easier said than done. But think about it this way. It is unavoidable that your partner will have friends, colleagues, classmates, and people they see in their day-to-day lives that are of the opposite sex. Some of these people may be really great and really good looking. But here’s where the trust comes in. Your partner chose you, if they wanted any of those people they see everyday, they would very easily leave you. Jealousy is only a sign of insecurity, which is an extremely unattractive quality. Jealousy will not get you anywhere in a relationship – it only leads to trust issues, which could lead to a break up. Jealousy and lack of trust will drive your partner away. Learn to trust your partner, and show them that you trust them. Have a little more faith in yourself – you are the one they have chosen and you are the one they want.

2. Take an Interest in Each Others Day – Its too easy to come home and rant on about how much you hate your boss or how idiotic some people in your office are. Instead, come home and start by asking your partner how their day was. A gentle kiss and a loving hug will let them know you really care. Don’t forget to pay attention to the details, ask questions to show that you are actually interested.

3. Learn to Compromise – No, unfortunately you can’t always have it your way. If he watched The Notebook with you last night, why not watch the game with him tonight? Show them how much you enjoy spending time with them, even if its not your favourite activity – any time together is quality time.

4. Find Common Hobbies and Likes – It’s always easier in the early stages of a relationship, but once that thrill of a new relationship wares off, you need to be able t do things together that you both enjoy. Shared interests are a great back bone to a long lasting relationship

5. Make Time for Each Other – All relationships need time together. I’m not talking about watching a movie together or sitting on your computer together, you need time to talk to each other. Set a side a couple of days a week to have a quite dinner alone and just reflect and chat.

6. Give Each Other Space – When you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you’re trapped or being held down. Give each other space and freedom. Let him go camping with the guys or let her go shopping with her girlfriends. You won’t die if you aren’t with them all the time. Everyone needs that “me” time.

7. Do New Things Together – Do not fall into the same routine of doing the same old things over and over. One of you will end up getting bored and looking elsewhere for something more interesting. Experiencing new things together brings you closer together and keeps the excitement going in the relationship.

8. Flirt A Little – No, don’t get too excited – I don’t mean flirt with other people, trust me, Happy Couples do not do that! Flirt with each other, do not let the spark die. Use a few cheesy pick up lines, tell them how hot they look in the mornings before work, and maybe initiate some sexting. Its a great way to keep your partner interested and happy.

9. Express Your Love – Exchange gifts, take them to surprise dinners, write them love notes, whatever you do, just show them that your love them. Don’t forget to simply say “I Love You” whenever you get the chance – short, sweet, and ever so important!

10. Don’t Hold Grudges – Everyone makes mistakes, and if they hurt you, they regret it more than you think. They don’t need you to constantly remind them of something they’ve done wrong – are you trying to drive them away? Learn to talk out your problems with each other and move on from arguments once they are over.

These top 10 things are key to a happy relationship! You’re welcome.

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The Ugly Secret

Ever so often I see unusually mismatched couples – slim, curvy, beautiful women with short, fat, balding men. As far as I know, there is no shortage of good-looking men, nor is there an overly high supply of gorgeous women to go around for everyone. So why is it that beautiful women date such ugly men?

It must be the cash, and judging by her looks (and his), he must have a lot of it. This is probably the first thought that goes through most good-looking men’s minds, but this assumption cannot be further from the truth. Although having financial stability does help a man find a beautiful woman, it is not the most important aspect. So if ugly men don’t need cash to bait beautiful women, what is their secret?

Well, just like a blind man learns to develop and exploit his other senses, an ugly man relies less on his looks, and learns to heighten his other traits. Over the years, ugly men have developed two different strategies to land himself a beautiful women. The first strategy is called Scouting for Beauty, which involves looking for undiscovered, up-and-coming beautiful women. The second strategy is called Impressing the Beauty, which involves impressing a beautiful single women who is sick of all the mind games played by good-looking men.

Scouting for Beauty

The mistake that most men make is to assume that every beautiful woman is born beautiful. Generally, men have their radars fine-tuned for beautiful women dressed in sexy clothing, ignoring every other woman around them. Good looking men assume that in order to date a beautiful woman, you have to look for a beautiful woman. This is where ugly men outwit the good-looking men. While good-looking men are checking out the hot model type women, who are already dating and usually spoiled with attention, the ugly men are scouting for the potential superstars. The ugly men learn to spot potential beauty within a regular looking woman before good-looking men do. These potential superstars are usually regular looking women who don’t know they have the potential to be hot. They have a low self-esteem, lack of personal style and lack of sex appeal.

Regular looking women do not receive their desired attention from the good-looking men, therefore they have a low self-esteem and no reason to fix themselves up – until the ugly man comes along, compliments her and makes her feel good about herself. Eventually the regular looking woman develops a liking for the ugly man and she begins to dress to impress and fix herself in a stylish manner. By the time the ugly man is done, he has produced a sophisticated, well dressed woman with sex appeal escaping from her every pore! The good-looking men are left wondering “How could I have missed her!?“.

Scouting is good, but not good enough. Ugly men know that they have to work hard to keep his new-found star as she can easily be swooped away by a smooth good-looking man. The problem is that once the regular looking woman realises that she is hot and that every man in the room is looking at her, she will start to wonder if maybe she can actually get a good-looking man. Now that she is new and improved, why not test the waters?

Ugly men have learnt to prepare for such, offering her everything she desires in a man – minus the good looks. He becomes a smooth talker – speaking with confidence, saying the right words to make her melt and offering interesting and intelligent conversation. He becomes fun and spontaneous – women love to keep company of men who can make them laugh and bring excitement to their lives. Too many good-looking men rely so heavily on their good looks alone to impress women that they forget to make the date exciting. Ugly men use this to their advantage – planning fun dates in advance such as weekend getaways, dinners at exotic restaurants, canoeing, hiking, cycling, or dance lessons. He becomes a real man – someone who can romance her and make her feel special, not only for her body but for her mind and soul as well. Good lovers are hard to find, and if he’s a virgin (being ugly didn’t get him that much),  it’s all the better. He becomes a mature man – realising that life is not all fun and games. A women likes to know that she can count on her man to provide her with spiritual and financial stability.

Impressing the Beauty

Ugly men do not always look for an undiscovered woman. Sometimes ugly men simply approach and land gorgeous women – how do they do it? They don’t assume anything about beautiful women. Believe it or not, beautiful women have a hard time meeting men. Most men are intimidated be their looks and think that since she looks good, she must be high maintenance, hard to get or already dating. The few men that do approach her are players who like to play mind games and just want to claim her as a trophy. All she wants is an honest, trustworthy, fun man who can bring stability to her life.

Ugly men realise that in most cases, beautiful women are single, fed up of players, and are craving a real man to approach her and desire her for who they are and not solely for her looks and body. Ugly men must always be one step ahead of the game; they have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

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Why Men Love Porn

“97% of men watch porn, the other 3% is lying”

Ever so often, men in healthy relationships enjoy watching porn, and even more often the women in their lives have a problem with it – after all, how healthy can your relationship really be if he enjoys watching other people having sex, right?

So why do men enjoy watching or reading about other people having sex?

Reason #1: He’s bord – Porn is their idea of entertainment. No, they won’t choose a normal activity like shop, eat, nap, exercise, etc, they rather watch porn.

Reason #2: He’s lazy – Porn is like fast food, he doesn’t even need to get off the couch. Why waste time and effort on sexting his girlfriend, calling her over or asking for a sexy picture? Porn is readily available and easily accessible. And of course sex is messy and all the thrusting can be tiring, he’d rather forfeit the real deal…

Reason #3: Guys like the crazy, wild stuff, that is, it’s a major turn on – Let’s be honest, not all of us have the flat tummy, toned thighs, perfect curves, big ass, D-cup boobs he sees in every porn video out there (and even if you do, it’s not enough). A girl like that could turn a perfectly straight lady on. Porn fulfills his favourite fantasies – the wild, weird positioned sex he’s dying to have, those girls have tried it all, and watching them do it allows him to imagine him doing it. Yes, that’s right, in case he’s being lying to you – he has imagined having sex with millions of girls by now. And no, he doesn’t see our problem with it.

Of course these are not the only reasons, all guys have different motivations.

So is him watching porn a problem? Well he certainly doesn’t think so. Watching porn is not a reflection of your love/sex life. It doesn’t mean that he’s bored with you or unhappy with you, and he is most definitely not replacing you with porn. Maybe take it as a bit of a hint though – spice things up in the bedroom, and maybe, just maybe, he’ll enjoy watching you more than porn.

Keep in mind that guys are naturally aroused by the sight or simple thought of sex. No, it does not mean that he’s a sex addict, it simply means that he enjoys it (and trust me, all men do). If it doesn’t interfere with their daily lives or your relationship, then let him be. After all, how much can it really affect you that your man is jerking off to another woman’s body, imagining that it was him f***ing her.