10 Things Happy Couples Do Differently

All relationships hit a bit of a slump every now and again, some more than others. Eventually days repeat themselves, and you find yourself losing your better half. So here’s the top 10 things that will help every relationship prevent this from happening!

1. Embrace Trust and Avoid Jealousy – I know, it’s a lot easier said than done. But think about it this way. It is unavoidable that your partner will have friends, colleagues, classmates, and people they see in their day-to-day lives that are of the opposite sex. Some of these people may be really great and really good looking. But here’s where the trust comes in. Your partner chose you, if they wanted any of those people they see everyday, they would very easily leave you. Jealousy is only a sign of insecurity, which is an extremely unattractive quality. Jealousy will not get you anywhere in a relationship – it only leads to trust issues, which could lead to a break up. Jealousy and lack of trust will drive your partner away. Learn to trust your partner, and show them that you trust them. Have a little more faith in yourself – you are the one they have chosen and you are the one they want.

2. Take an Interest in Each Others Day – Its too easy to come home and rant on about how much you hate your boss or how idiotic some people in your office are. Instead, come home and start by asking your partner how their day was. A gentle kiss and a loving hug will let them know you really care. Don’t forget to pay attention to the details, ask questions to show that you are actually interested.

3. Learn to Compromise – No, unfortunately you can’t always have it your way. If he watched The Notebook with you last night, why not watch the game with him tonight? Show them how much you enjoy spending time with them, even if its not your favourite activity – any time together is quality time.

4. Find Common Hobbies and Likes – It’s always easier in the early stages of a relationship, but once that thrill of a new relationship wares off, you need to be able t do things together that you both enjoy. Shared interests are a great back bone to a long lasting relationship

5. Make Time for Each Other – All relationships need time together. I’m not talking about watching a movie together or sitting on your computer together, you need time to talk to each other. Set a side a couple of days a week to have a quite dinner alone and just reflect and chat.

6. Give Each Other Space – When you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you’re trapped or being held down. Give each other space and freedom. Let him go camping with the guys or let her go shopping with her girlfriends. You won’t die if you aren’t with them all the time. Everyone needs that “me” time.

7. Do New Things Together – Do not fall into the same routine of doing the same old things over and over. One of you will end up getting bored and looking elsewhere for something more interesting. Experiencing new things together brings you closer together and keeps the excitement going in the relationship.

8. Flirt A Little – No, don’t get too excited – I don’t mean flirt with other people, trust me, Happy Couples do not do that! Flirt with each other, do not let the spark die. Use a few cheesy pick up lines, tell them how hot they look in the mornings before work, and maybe initiate some sexting. Its a great way to keep your partner interested and happy.

9. Express Your Love – Exchange gifts, take them to surprise dinners, write them love notes, whatever you do, just show them that your love them. Don’t forget to simply say “I Love You” whenever you get the chance – short, sweet, and ever so important!

10. Don’t Hold Grudges – Everyone makes mistakes, and if they hurt you, they regret it more than you think. They don’t need you to constantly remind them of something they’ve done wrong – are you trying to drive them away? Learn to talk out your problems with each other and move on from arguments once they are over.

These top 10 things are key to a happy relationship! You’re welcome.

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The Ugly Secret

Ever so often I see unusually mismatched couples – slim, curvy, beautiful women with short, fat, balding men. As far as I know, there is no shortage of good-looking men, nor is there an overly high supply of gorgeous women to go around for everyone. So why is it that beautiful women date such ugly men?

It must be the cash, and judging by her looks (and his), he must have a lot of it. This is probably the first thought that goes through most good-looking men’s minds, but this assumption cannot be further from the truth. Although having financial stability does help a man find a beautiful woman, it is not the most important aspect. So if ugly men don’t need cash to bait beautiful women, what is their secret?

Well, just like a blind man learns to develop and exploit his other senses, an ugly man relies less on his looks, and learns to heighten his other traits. Over the years, ugly men have developed two different strategies to land himself a beautiful women. The first strategy is called Scouting for Beauty, which involves looking for undiscovered, up-and-coming beautiful women. The second strategy is called Impressing the Beauty, which involves impressing a beautiful single women who is sick of all the mind games played by good-looking men.

Scouting for Beauty

The mistake that most men make is to assume that every beautiful woman is born beautiful. Generally, men have their radars fine-tuned for beautiful women dressed in sexy clothing, ignoring every other woman around them. Good looking men assume that in order to date a beautiful woman, you have to look for a beautiful woman. This is where ugly men outwit the good-looking men. While good-looking men are checking out the hot model type women, who are already dating and usually spoiled with attention, the ugly men are scouting for the potential superstars. The ugly men learn to spot potential beauty within a regular looking woman before good-looking men do. These potential superstars are usually regular looking women who don’t know they have the potential to be hot. They have a low self-esteem, lack of personal style and lack of sex appeal.

Regular looking women do not receive their desired attention from the good-looking men, therefore they have a low self-esteem and no reason to fix themselves up – until the ugly man comes along, compliments her and makes her feel good about herself. Eventually the regular looking woman develops a liking for the ugly man and she begins to dress to impress and fix herself in a stylish manner. By the time the ugly man is done, he has produced a sophisticated, well dressed woman with sex appeal escaping from her every pore! The good-looking men are left wondering “How could I have missed her!?“.

Scouting is good, but not good enough. Ugly men know that they have to work hard to keep his new-found star as she can easily be swooped away by a smooth good-looking man. The problem is that once the regular looking woman realises that she is hot and that every man in the room is looking at her, she will start to wonder if maybe she can actually get a good-looking man. Now that she is new and improved, why not test the waters?

Ugly men have learnt to prepare for such, offering her everything she desires in a man – minus the good looks. He becomes a smooth talker – speaking with confidence, saying the right words to make her melt and offering interesting and intelligent conversation. He becomes fun and spontaneous – women love to keep company of men who can make them laugh and bring excitement to their lives. Too many good-looking men rely so heavily on their good looks alone to impress women that they forget to make the date exciting. Ugly men use this to their advantage – planning fun dates in advance such as weekend getaways, dinners at exotic restaurants, canoeing, hiking, cycling, or dance lessons. He becomes a real man – someone who can romance her and make her feel special, not only for her body but for her mind and soul as well. Good lovers are hard to find, and if he’s a virgin (being ugly didn’t get him that much),  it’s all the better. He becomes a mature man – realising that life is not all fun and games. A women likes to know that she can count on her man to provide her with spiritual and financial stability.

Impressing the Beauty

Ugly men do not always look for an undiscovered woman. Sometimes ugly men simply approach and land gorgeous women – how do they do it? They don’t assume anything about beautiful women. Believe it or not, beautiful women have a hard time meeting men. Most men are intimidated be their looks and think that since she looks good, she must be high maintenance, hard to get or already dating. The few men that do approach her are players who like to play mind games and just want to claim her as a trophy. All she wants is an honest, trustworthy, fun man who can bring stability to her life.

Ugly men realise that in most cases, beautiful women are single, fed up of players, and are craving a real man to approach her and desire her for who they are and not solely for her looks and body. Ugly men must always be one step ahead of the game; they have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

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The Weight Watchers Diet – The Healthy Way to Lose Weight!

Have you been struggling to lose weight? Aimlessly trying to get your summer body back? GezzyGirl has a new diet that will fit any lifestyle – everyone has to give this one a try! The Weight Watchers Diet helps you lose 1kg (2lbs) a week, while you eat whatever you want! Sounds too good to be true? Here’s how it works!

The Weight Watchers Diet is based on the theory that counting calories is not the only aspect of dieting, but rather making healthy choices that fill you up, and therefore eating less.The Weight Watchers Diet Points Plus assigns every food a points value based on protein, carbs, fat, fibre, calories, and how hard the body has to work to burn it off. In order to lose weight you need to keep your point count down. Choices that fill you up and nutritionally dense foods “cost” fewer points than empty calories. For example, if you’re contemplating between a 200cal smoothie and a 200cal iced coffee, you would choose the smoothie even though they have the same calorie count! Bare in mind that processed foods will carry high points, while fresh fruits and vegetables carry zero points! You can eat as much as you want of these because they are high in fibre and more filling than something highly processed, like a chocolate!

There is no fixed membership period for this diet. Because it’s a healthy way to lose the unwanted fat, you can stay on it for as long as you wish. The great thing about this diet is that you can eat whatever you want, as long as you stick to your daily Points Plus Target. You can find your target by going onto the Weight Watchers website. Here, you will also find the point values of over 40 000 foods! Weight Watchers also pushes specially designated power foods, or the best choice among similar foods. For example, if you’re stuck between 2 soups, you can quickly check which one has the healthier content.

So why should you follow this diet? Well first and foremost, the Weight Watchers Diet helps you lose weight. Studies suggest that Weight Watchers is affective when followed correctly, with 86% of followers being happily satisfied with the results. Following this diet proves to improve cardiac health through weight loss. Although eating this way does not directly better diabetes, it helps you lose weight and intern helps diabetes patients.

Weight Watchers recommends that you take a daily multivitamin to ensure that you’re getting enough calcium, zinc, magnesium, iron, vitamin B-12, and other important nutrients. This diet is easy to follow as you won’t go hungry throughout the day – the points per day are high enough to allow 3 meals and at least 2 snacks! Treating yourself is recommended!!! Just stick to your allocated points and you’ll be on your way to your dream body!

 

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Keeping The Spark Alive

When it comes to relationships, how can we guarantee that it’ll be long-term? Well GezzyGirl has rounded up everything you need to know on how to keep the spark alive!

1. Throw Parties – By throwing a party and inviting both your groups of friends over, you’ll have an opportunity to be around each other without being attached to one another. This is a great way to keep any long-term relationship interesting. You can spend time getting to know his friends, while he does the same. It will be enriching, exciting and fun!

2. Visit somewhere new together – By going to a new city, a new restaurant, a new park, theatre or beach, you’ll be opening a wide range of new conversation. You’ll also get great new experiences together, and exciting memories. It’s really revitalising for any relationship to be put in a situation where you are both on equal footing, both unaware of what this new place has in store for you.

3. Spend some time apart – This is probably one of the hardest things to do. When you love and care for someone, you literally want to spend as much time with them as possible, but it’s important to have a little space. For couples staying together, consider spending a night apart every once in a while. Maybe spend a weekend at your parents, or have a catch up sleep over with an old friend. Being apart not only allows you some freedom, but will also make you miss each other and help you realise how much you actually need each other – keeping a long-term relationship interesting.

4. Give each other gifts – Giving a gift to someone not only lets them know that you love them, but also that you’ve been thinking about them when they weren’t around. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant or pricy, just make sure it’s something from the heart that you know your partner would love. Surprising your partner with a small gift every now and then is essential for the future health of your relationship.

5. Make surprise visits – Stop by when you have some free time just to take them out for lunch, drop off a chocolate, or just to say hello. Anything to put a smile on their face. This has the same reasoning behind it as giving a small gift, except even better! Rather than just letting them know that you’re thinking about them, let them know that you were missing them and you urgently needed to see them!

6. Go on dates – Just because you’ve been dating for a while now, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t treat your partner to a romantic dinner or a picnic on the beach. Do some planning and make a reservation at someplace affordable and romantic, Guys, open the door for her, order some wine and dessert and hold her hand. Don’t forget to be a gentleman and pay for the date! Make it a regular thing, monthly, weekly or bi-weekly, depending on your budget and schedules. It may seem like a lot of work, but trust me, it’ll only make your relationship stronger and healthier.

7. Set goals together – This will strengthen not only your relationship, but your ambition as well! Sit down with your partner and decide where you both want to be in the next 5 to 10 years. Set goals on your neighbourhood, health, house, family and kids, jobs, studies, etc. – and remember to tell each other how you plan on achieving it. Check up on each other and encourage each other. There are always ways to better yourself and your relationship, and its better to do it together rather than separately.

8. Try something new in the bedroom – Trust me, there’s always something you haven’t tried! It you really want to give your relationship staying power, give a little extra effort in the bedroom: try out some new positions, bring in some sex toys, whips and chains, maybe even a video camera! These things may not sound appealing to you, but it a try and you may be surprised!

 

All in all, the best way to keep a long-term relationship interesting, and well, long-term, is to simply add that element of “new” to your life, and your relationship. Cook new meals together, go to gym together, go on hikes or walks in different areas, or take up some dancing lessons together. Whatever it is, don’t ever stop searching for something new to converse about and keep that initial feeling alive for the years ahead.

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The Secrets Men Keep..

Here’s a few of the many secrets you didn’t know about men…

Number #1:

“We like to cuddle” – Men enjoy cuddling just as much as women do! “It’s relaxing and helps relieve stress. It makes us feel secure about our relationship and a lot closer all together”.

Number #2:

“Confidence is key in the bedroom” – Men are taught that confidence can solve just about anything! Talking rubbish? Speak with confidence and they’ll believe you! Missed a step? Fall with confidence and they’ll think its part of your walk! The same concept works in the bedroom, You may have no idea what you’re doing (trust me, most of us don’t) but throw a little confidence in there, and they’ll be begging on their knees!

Number #3:

“Getting too tipsy on a date is a total turnoff” – Some people turn into a completely different person when they’re drunk. Let your potential partner get to know you while you’re sober, and if you’re a lover of alcohol like GezzyGirl, let it work itself into the date as it goes. For instance, wine adds romance to a quiet dinner, while having a shot or two of tequila can spice things up and add some excitement to an evening out together. Its your pick!

Number #4:

“Heavy make up – another major turnoff!” – When a girl does her make up well, the results can be magical. But girls shouldn’t rely on make up to look and feel good. Men like girls who are comfortable in their own skin. “They need to be confident with what their body has to offer, naturally”. There’s nothing wrong with make up, when using it to highlight and emphasise your features, its excessive make up that’s the problem. “Too much, too many colours – we can’t even find your face in there!”

Ladies, we all love what make up can do for us, but remember: with time, make up only ruins our faces, ’till we have nothing to offer, naturally. You’ll know its a bit too much when he can’t recognise you when you go for the natural look!

Number #5:

“You put too much pressure on yourselves to get married” – Let’s be honest, it’s true! But with good reason. Women say they feel more pressure to settle down because they can’t have children as easily past a certain age. Also, appearance, and therefore confidence, fades away with age, and no one wants to be stuck alone forever. But this is a problem that affects men as well. “I fear that my appearance and “game” will fade as I get older. Although it is fun to be one of the few in my group who hasn’t yet found love, I’m starting to wonder if time is running out”.

Number #6:

“We want to bail the morning after a one night stand” – “A little too much to drink the night before and we find ourselves in your bed the morning after. I think, no, I know I speak for all men when I say, we are not looking for a relationship after having a one night stand with you. Give each other a hug, wish each other well, don’t say anything about calling, and don’t, I mean DO NOT believe him when he mutters that he will call you”.

Number #7:

“You will NEVER understand our sports obsession” – I know a lot of women like sports, but are they as obsessed with sports as men are? “We appreciate you’re efforts of trying to get involved with our love for sport, but honestly, all we’re thinking is “you’ll never really understand our sports obsession”. And ladies, its ok! We have enough guys to talk about the game with. Just make me a sandwich and bring me a beer!”

Number #8:

“You’re not the only one who engages in retail-therapy post-break up” – Guys too love shopping during emotional lows. “Wearing new clothes makes me feel confident”. Men say they’ve been spending a lot of cash on their ex in the past; now its time to spend some money on themselves!

Number #9:

“Sex in the shower is over rated” – “The shower is a danger zone! That “up against the wall” position is a lot tougher than it sounds. Everything is super slippery, plus there’s soap everywhere. The shower is the one, and probable the only place we don’t have to do it in”.

And last, but most definitely not least…

Number #10:

“We do, sometimes, actually think you’re crazy” – “Thinking women are crazy makes things a lot easier for us”. Men tend to dismiss pretty much anything they don’t feel like explaining as “Women-Craziness”. Rather than wasting their time trying to rationalise what we do, they throw it all out the window and add it to the long list of “What our Crazy woman does”. “We don’t really think all women are insane, we just say it so we can be done thinking about their antics and move on”.

 So there you have it! 10 top secrets you never knew about men. Feel free to leave your comments. We would love to see how many guys agree with this, or how many feel differently.

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‘We need a break” or “I think we should break up”

How many times have you felt that you needed a break from your partner? More specifically, how many times have you actually told your partner that you need a break?

I was sitting with a friend for coffee yesterday afternoon when I noticed she seemed rather stressed. With a little further investigation, here’s what came out:

“This “In-Need-of-a-Break” feeling swept my mind, once again, this past week. It’s been a while since I’ve last felt down about being in a seemingly perfect relationship and I’m not too sure what the cause of it is.”

My dear friend has asked her boyfriend of nearly 2 years now for a break before, (application for leave: denied) and every single time, he thought she wanted to break up with him.

So GezzyGirl wants your opinion! Here’s our question:

 Is “we need a break” the new “we should break up“?

 

Please leave your comments! We would love to hear your views on this!

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Jealousy – A Relationship ruiner?

 

So we’ve all heard the “he’s so jealous” and “she’s so jealous” complaints from our relationship bound friends, but what’s the big deal? Is jealousy Really a problem in relationships today?

A recent survey showed that 8 out 10 guys like their women to be a bit jealous, “It shows that they’re willing to fight for what they have.. And who doesn’t like a little kitty fight?” – says Markus.

When women we’re asked about the topic at hand, we had a slightly different response. 6 out of 10 women felt that jealous men are controlling men.  “No women wants a man who’s going to tell her not to go out with her guy friends. They need to give us space, jealousy prevents us from being ourselves”. With a little further investigation, GezzyGirl learnt that women too, enjoy a little jealousy in their relationships, the problem arises when the jealousy is excessive.

Jealousy can be relationship ruining, or relationship building, it simply depends on how you handle it. While in some cases jealousy may be interpreted as lack of trust, it can also be seen as a “I’ll fight for you” gesture.

The next time your partner expresses their jealous side, don’t be too quick to react. Take a step back, and try think about what the source of their lealousy is. You’ll be surprised at what you may find!

 

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How to know that he is in fact, a liar

If he’s stood you up a few times, its few times too many. Its time to consider that he might be lying to you, and he;s not really committed to your relationship.

Today, relationships have become less about love, and more about, well, everything else.  Everyone goes into a relationship seeking happiness, but you’ll be surprised by how different some people’s definitions of happiness are. For example, while you define happiness as “love” she might define it as “your credit card”, or he might define it as “sex”. The bottom line is that different people have different reasons for getting into a relationship, I’m going to help you identify the liars. You know, the creeps who senselessly say “I Love you“, hoping to get something else in return.

Here’s how!

Tip 1: Inconsistencies

When you want to know if someone is lying, look for inconsistencies in what they are saying. Are their stories logical? Do they keep on changing their story?

Tip 2: Ask the unexpected

If your partner is used to lying to you, he’s probably already worked out all the questions you’re likely to ask. Ask them something they couldn’t have prepared for. This may be a bit hard if your partner knows you really well. Another way, is to just ask a lot of questions – almost try to confuse them. This will bring out the inconsistencies in their story and you’ll be able to catch them out!

Tip 3: Pay attention to behavior

When someone is being questioned about a lie, their behaviour will visibly change. They may look flustered, nervous, sweaty, awkward or panicked. Quick responses may also be a sign of a lie. Remember, any change in behaviour can give it away, even if they’re acting more relaxed than usual! Also, pay attention to eye contact. Most liars can’t make direct contact while trying to justify themselves.

 

So before getting too serious with your partner, make sure you both have the same vision for your relationship. Liars are very inconsiderate people, and they’re everywhere! Make sure you’re not with the wrong person.

 

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